Therapy dating


D., LCPC Have you ever wondered why you keep being drawn to the same type of person?

Have you ever asked yourself why you always seem to be the one to be broken up with?

Suddenly, you become borderline obsessive: thinking about him or her all the time, over analyzing everything they say, and constantly checking their social media.

Perhaps you’ve been going along to get along so you don’t upset or disappoint your partner.

Our series of true dating stories continues with today’s essay by Jen Doll. Why was it that being clever and sarcastic and keeping people on their toes was more “acceptable” than asserting what you wanted and letting the possible dates sort themselves into those who wanted the same things, and those who would walk away and wish you well? This idea of knowing what you wanted and actually saying it, it was scary — but it resonated. I wanted someone who knows himself, a good driver (I’ve ridden with too many bad ones), a person who was aligned with me politically.