I don’t want to practice doing that in front of [the new people I meet here].
[The day we left,] my brothers were in school, my sister was babysitting, and my parents had left for work.
My girlfriend picked me up, and then we just drove for three days to San Francisco. And so at work, I would casually say in conversation, “me and my girlfriend.” That was the easiest way for me to come out because [I didn’t] have to say “I’m gay.” I didn’t have to tell my life story.
I honestly think straight people don’t realize there’s this whole world of gay culture, and that within it there’s different realms.
A lot of people think of gay culture as white gay men, and I think the mainstream media, especially, doesn’t know a lot about lesbians or queer women. We don’t have a lot of gay friends, so I’m just learning about gay culture myself.
So Jamila wrote them a coming-out letter, then packed her bags and headed with her girlfriend to San Francisco.