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And to be perfectly honest, people can be pretty damn shallow have.They tend to believe that they deserve a smoking hottie, a perfect 10 regardless of their own looks, wealth, lifestyle or personality.

Because sex is so much more easily attainable for women – or so the conventional wisdom goes – they have luxury of being able to define the standards which men must meet, wantonly cutting off men who are not rich, tall douchebags with square jaws and fast cars.

Men feel helpless; they feel that they are forced to leap through hoops in order to win women’s approval and hope that she will pick him against all odds. In fact, not only is the idea that women somehow control all the power in sex and dating not true, but it’s a case of people asking the wrong question.

I have friends who aren’t conventionally attractive, aren’t especially rich and are certainly not powerful… Men have to be the aggressors, men are the ones who have to make the approach, call first, ask her out, pay for the date… Women are clearly either lazy, entitled or just get off on having men subjugate themselves.

Let’s be honest: more often than not the men who complain most about this are the men who would prefer to be approaching women themselves, whether due to approach anxiety, a fear of rejection or even just not being sure whether or not she’s interested.

There are many women who struggle to find dates, whether it’s because they’re too tall, too big, too whatever. This complaint translates as “the hot woman I want to fuck but won’t give me the time of day can get sex any time she wants.” Beyond that, the ability to get a sexual partner within a pre-set amount of time or with whatever suitable definition of “ease” might be isn’t exclusive to women.