He might be willing to see things work but he may not have an idea of what to do to make it.
But that’s not a power position, and it does you no favors. Beware of wielding stereotypes; they’re cheap shortcuts masquerading as wisdom, and if you use them, prepare to be judged by them. You would only applaud someone if she succeeded in doing something impossible or crazy, or if she got away with something she shouldn’t have. The cougar image is cartoonish at best, derived either from a culture fearful of a sexually empowered woman, or from the woman herself, who claims cougardom as a way to boost her self esteem via sex with a man many years her junior.
You use it as a reason to blow them off, pare back your options, and fuel embittered stories about how It’s So Hard to Meet Good Men. One of my most popular posts to date is 7 Reasons Why You Should Want to Date an Older Woman. ” followed by a high five, which is kind of odd when you think about it. As I approached my mid 30s, I wondered if this meant I was now a bona fide cougar. The term conjures an image of a hungry, embattled woman with heavily coiffed hair, mummified in makeup, squeezed into a bedazzled top and looking to “score” a young man.
This mostly leads to his woman turning into a mama figure to him, making sure he feeds, he dresses and most likely, he has a comfortable roof over his young head.
Although it doesn’t bother some people, to others this is a deal breaker and soon sends the relationship crumbling.
Lack of commitment This young man still prefers to hang out with boys his ages, hit clubs and spend hours discussing whom amongst them has the hottest chic.