As far as I'm concerned, there are two types of pseudo-relationships you can be in that aren't real, bonafide relationships: You're either "hooking up" (casual booty calls, probably not going anywhere) or you're "dating" (going on dates, getting to know each other, hopefully going somewhere).
A “great” one won’t come your way unless you’re willing to pass on the ones that are merely “good.”So this is a simple plea: demand strong feelings from your relationship. Have the courage to believe that something better is out there.
Demand awe and inspiration–not all the time, but at least with some regularity. (Hell, I think you might even be able to know sooner than that, but I’m trying to be reasonable here.)And I know some people take issue with this, saying they were dating three years (or more) before they truly fell in love, and now they’ve been together 40 years now, blah, blah, blah. But what happens a lot more often is people who are in limbo for years simply get married because they feel they can’t “waste” the 5 years they’ve been together by splitting up now, and instead go on to waste ten more miserable years together being in an incompatible relationship they don’t have the courage to get out of.
Then he asked me to be his girlfriend, and boom: We were in a real relationship.
So, the way I see it, "dating" is what happens before you're boyfriend and girlfriend.
You just have to let go of the current one to see them.