Baptism into the church is preliminary to marriage.
Courtship tends to be a private matter prior to the wedding announcement by the minister.
Such deviations are ignored in order that the young may freely decide on Marriage and membership within the church community.
Despite the fact that mate choice is limited to other church members, the young people do not necessarily choose to marry close relatives.
The high inbreeding of the Amish population results not from marriages between first cousins but from the Intermarriages that have occurred over generations within a genetically isolated group.
This may mean working in a factory until enough savings have been accumulated to invest in a farm of their own.
If the couple remains on the family farm, their parents may, at retirement, move to a separate house on the property and Eventually leave the management of the farm to the younger couple.
In conformity with general medieval practice Anabaptists expected to supervise and direct the marriage arrangements for their young people.